“It feels like your entire body is being controlled by something else. Its like chocolate dangling right in front of you and you want to taste it so much…and no matter what you do to try and fight it, you can’t make the craving go away, it keeps coming back.
You can feel yourself moving closer to it, because the gravitational pull towards him is so strong, and you are becoming very weak. You find yourself doing and saying things you never thought you would do or say, but you justify it, because of the pull.
Your body starts to get warm, then go numb, then it tingles at the very thought of him. You feel it pulling you closer like an uncontrollable magnetic force. You know your husband or boyfriend wouldn’t like it, you know it’s wrong and you tell yourself to stay away, to stop, to run, but the pull has taken over and you can’t stop! You can’t because you never thought this would happen to you…and you didn’t have an escape plan.”Lysa
DO YOU HAVE AN ESCAPE ROUTE PLANNED IF THE “GRAVITATIONAL PULL” SHOULD HAPPEN TO YOU?
Lysa didn’t have an escape plan put into place before she encountered Jim, otherwise she could have put her guards up and walked away without harm. She loved Rich her fiancé and didn’t want to lose him, but she had crossed the line with Jim in a very big and dishonest way. Now, her relationship with Rich was under total fire.
Have you given any thought to how easy it is to become a victim of the gravitational pull? You know it would never happen to you…but what if one day you realized it is happening to you. What would you do? Do you have a plan to protect yourself before the pull has taken over?
TAKE THESE 5 EASY STEPS TO TAKE TO PROTECT YOUR SELF FROM THE GRAVITATIONAL PULL!
- BE PROACTIVE, DON’T WAIT UNTIL YOU GET PULLED IN, PREVENT IT FROM EVER HAPPENING
- SET BOUNDARIES WITH CO-WORKERS, FRIENDS AND CONFIDANTS
- KNOW YOUR WEAKNESSES AND PROTECT THEM
- BE ACCOUNTABILE AND RESPONSIBLE TO BOTH YOURSELF AND YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER OR SPOUSE
- TALK TO YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER OR SPOUSE ABOUT WHAT ‘CROSSING THE LINE” LOOKS LIKE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
The goal is to BE PROACTIVE and protect yourself and the relationship you have with the one you love in advance, by setting guidelines and boundaries on what is ok and what is not ok when it comes to outside relationships. If you do this, you may eliminate the pull altogether. But, sometimes the pull takes can take hold of you before you even know what happening. You may find yourself in a compromising position, but you will have an action plan in place and know what to do to end the pull!
You say “this will never happen to me!” How do you know for sure it won’t happen to you, we are human, right? We are human and make mistakes, mistakes we tell ourselves we will never make! It’s much easier to be prepared because, once that gravitational pull towards the fine line (him) is under way… without a plan, its hard to go back! Put a plan in place for yourself today! Be aware of the pull and stop it before it takes hold of you!
Have you found yourself right in the middle of the gravitational pull towards someone outside of your committed relationship ? How do you describe the pull? What techniques did you use to stop the pull from taking hold of you?
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